♥"Puppy Love" Vs PMO

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I was thinking back to my younger years when I would get "puppy love" and I really do miss those feelings. It seems when you start to PMO it just destroys ever having those feelings again because when you see someone you like, you just think about them lustfully. I think some of the elements of puppy love stick around but for the most part if your into PMO and have been for a while the lust part of your desire for that person will be in full effect as well. Its funny I think even as late as my early 20s (im in my early 30s now) I would still have puppy love. I know in high school I remember having it (most of us do I think) Its funny I remember not being able to get my crush out of my mind but at the same time I dont recall having lustful fantasies. They were more innocent in nature, the fantasies would involve just holding hands with her or taking a walk at sunset, looking into her eyes, etc. Its almost as if PMO is puppy love's evil twin because they keep the subject of your desire in your mind to where its all you think about yet with PMO its an addiction that involves pleasure hits to the brain. PMO is like Bizarro Superman. Its like would you rather date someone who looks amazing and is physically attractive in every way but has nothing in common with you whatsoever or someone who is average or maybe below average in looks but you can carry a conversation with them for hours on end? PMO will make you date the nothing in common attractive person. I guess the friends you keep also play a big part in that being important too, as with what society thinks. It keeps everyone so superficial. I guess unplugging from the matrix (rebooting) is the one true key.



It is interesting...

...I definitely experienced heaps and heaps of puppy love type feelings when I was younger.

The past few years, however, at the peak of this porn addiction, I never felt that way for any woman. It wasn't that I didn't find them attractive -- I did. I just think that addiction to PMO makes you see all women as you see a pornstar on a computer screen. They become a two dimensional *thing* that you would sooner jerk off to the idea or image of, rather than actually try to make a real connection with. No matter how great a woman might be, they are just a high definition picture to you, even in real life. Your mind, sometimes consciously and sometimes unconsciously, compares every woman to the harem of pornstars you've built at home and on your computer, and there is no way a real life woman can offer the type of stimulation that your harem does.

I believe that during porn addiction, it is basically impossible to connect romantically with anyone. It just zaps that part of you and burns it away. I am on week six of my reboot, and for the first time in 5 or 6 years I find myself really feeling like connecting with a female when I am attracted to them and speaking to them in person. I notice all the things I used to notice when I was younger, and inside of myself I feel this now unfamiliar urge to get closer to them, look deep into their eyes, smile etc. I have not been able to look a woman in the eyes like that for a long time, and forget about smiling! It's great waking up from this!

Wow! Now I've read it, I can

Wow! Now I've read it, I can really identify with this.

I was absoutely head-over-heels for a girl from the ages 12-14, unrequited sadly. Although it was a long time ago, the feelings were so utterly intense I still remember them.

Now, this ties in with recently finding myself missing romantic feelings of any sort, even slightly hurtful ones such as those mentioned above. At least they were a feeling, of some sort!

The PMO abstinence is, I believe, opening up those same pathways as I have mentioned on here my habit of fantasising about cuddling, or just wanting someone to hold.

I haven't genuinely felt that so intensely since I was lovestruck teenager.

Thank you very much for sharing.

I gave this thread a ♥

because it's so relevant to the reunion of men and women on this planet. We can't *make* ourselves fall (or stay) in love, but we may be able to reset our perception of each other from within.