Chapter 5: The Six Rules of Sex Intercourse - Part 1

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THIS CHAPTER gives the quintessence of more than thirty years' experience. It is the most important part of this book. Success in marriage can depend upon a knowledge of it; ignorance of it can lead to failure, with all its consequences: broken homes, emotional disturbances, juvenile delinquency, disease and crime.

For thirty years the author has hesitated to publish his findings because he could not prove them scientifically, even though they worked perfectly in practice. Now, encouraged by some new contributions to the problems of love and sex offered by the science of physics, he is emboldened to present certain experiences to his readers, incredible though they may sound.

The terms "electricity" or "electrical streams," "positive or negative electricity," and so on, used in this chapter in referring to human sex relations, should be taken as mental pictures rather than literally. The theory of electricity, in matters of sex, is not yet the common property of science.

Let us assume that a man has found the right mate: a sexually and emotionally mature person, well attuned to him, who enjoys many things in common with him. Such a marriage should be a happy one; nevertheless, it sometimes ends in disaster. Why?

In working for marital reconciliation in the courts, as well as in private practice, we have found the main reasons for such failures are mistakes in the couple's sex relations. For, if their sex life no longer satisfies the two partners, their marriage bogs down in ill humor, intolerance, bitterness, friction,

hostility-expressions of a more or less unconscious resentment over sex disappointment.

Why do a couple suit each other in the beginning and then grow apart, the wife becoming frigid and irritable, and the husband tense and nervous, or even impotent? This sometimes happens in cases in which the mutual love of the two partners still persists. Why?

Because the nature of love and sex, and the laws governing their expression, were not understood. In all the text books on anatomy, physiology, psychology and hygiene, the fundamentals of these problems remain as far from solution as they were thousands of years ago. Even the great sexologists, Moll, Kraft-Ebbing, Havelock Ellis, Forel, Marcuse, Lindsey, Hirschfeld, Van de Velde, Rene Guyon, and others, were unable to find an answer to the question: "What is sex?" Says Professor F. A. E. Grew, "One leaves the subject with a feeling of regret that biologists have to leave the nature of sex unexplained."

That is undoubtedly why we are unable to find, in any of the books on sex education, a thorough analysis and appraisal of the causes of sexual attraction, the understanding of which can be of such great help in choosing the right marital partner. It accounts also for the fact that we have not found even a mention of certain elements essential to a satisfactory sex union.

But unless we discovered the hidden mistakes in the sex life of these couples we could not hope to bring about effective reconciliation.
Experience has convinced the author that there is a difference in bio-electrical potential in the bodies of male and female which can be exchanged in a proper intercourse, leaving both partners relaxed, happy and satisfied. But the reader has to keep in mind that, so far, there are no scientific experiments which definitely prove this theory. On the other hand, the supposition has not been disproved.

Perhaps it would be more prudent on my part, and more acceptable to some of our scientists, to call bio-electrical potential "radiation." But terminology seems to me less important than human relationships. The expression "bio-electrical potential" may actually be something of a figure of speech, but by talking as if it were literally true I have been able to improve the sex relations of innumerable couples. My view is not unlike that of the famous mathematician, Henri Poincare, who, when asked if he believed in the existence of ether, answered: "It does not matter if ether exists or not; the important thing is that all occurrences take place exactly as they would do if ether existed."

The conviction that differences in bio-electrical potential exist in male and female bodies and that an exchange between these two types of electricity takes place in proper sex union, was suggested to the author by four events.

1. The remarkable experiences of an Oriental couple.
2. The study of sex practices and taboos of certain native tribes in different parts of the world.
3. Information furnished by some followers of Karezza.
4. Observation of a neurotic patient.

EVENT 1.

This account of the experiences of the couple in Damascus, mentioned in the foreword of this book, is taken from the author's diary:

Damascus, February 6, 1916.

In my room in the Victoria Hotel, Dr. A. B., a former patient of my sanitarium, told the following story:
"A week ago I married a beautiful young Arabian girl. We were both very much in love. The strange happenings between us were

so remarkable and so exciting, that I felt impelled to tell them to an expert.

"My wife and I lay for an hour, naked on a couch, in close bodily contact, caressing each other; but without sex union. The room was in total darkness, entirely blacked out. You could not distinguish anything. Then we separated from each other and stood up; thereupon my wife became visible. She was outlined with a nimbus of greenish-blue mystic light which radiated from her. It was like a halo, except for the fact that it encircled not only her head but her whole body, showing its configuration in a hazy way.1

"As she stood there, I moved my hand slowly toward her. When my palm came within an inch of her breast, an electric spark sprang from her to me, visible, audible and painful. We both shrank back."

That was his story. I was filled with surprise. I was acquainted with Reichenbach's theories about "Od rays" radiating from the body; but, like every other scientist at that time, I did not take them seriously. But the case of this couple would be a clear demonstration of their existence - if the young doctor was not the victim of an hallucination.

Not less astonishing for me was the electrical aspect of this demonstration. Some fishes, I knew, possess electrical batteries in their bodies; but that human beings could develop different bio-electricity, in amounts sufficient to produce visible sparks between them, seemed to me incredible. I remembered, then, that a hairdresser once told me he could not work on women during their menstrual period because their hair was too heavily loaded with electricity to stay in place. I had paid scant attention to him at the time, but now his statement came back to me with fresh meaning.2

Then something else entered my mind: While the embryo

is being formed there are three layers of cells: the entoderm (innermost layer), from which the vital organs come; the mesoderm (middle layer), from which the muscles, bones and sinews are derived; and the ectoderm (outer layer), which forms the skin and nerve tissue. We know that the impulses transmitted by the nervous system are electrical in nature, and that every activity in a nerve is accompanied by changes in the electrical balance. Skin cells have the same origin as nerve cells. Therefore, on thinking over this series of events, it seemed possible that, by lying together, a positive and negative bio-electrical potential had been built up in the skin cells of husband and wife.

In the next two weeks this newly married couple most obligingly conducted a series of experiments, reported to me in every detail, which provided the basis for an entirely new conception of the mechanism of sex intercourse.

In the first experiment husband and wife, after lying in close contact for one hour, caressing and kissing each other, had a full sex union, lasting five minutes. Both seemed to attain satisfaction. This, I thought, indicated that during the intercourse the differing bio-electricity in their two bodies had been united and neutralized. Nevertheless, when they stood up and approached each other, sparks again sprang between them, indicating that, while they were momentarily satisfied by orgasm, nonetheless the different "bio-electrical potential" was not removed. A few days later, intercourse again took place. This time it lasted fifteen minutes. Again sparks were visible.

The fourth sex union, in this series, lasted for twenty-seven minutes. Following this no sparks were exchanged between the lovers. The twenty-seven minute period was the critical factor.

Such were Dr. B's reports, inexplicable if true; and I had
no reason to doubt him.

During the following weeks this young couple made further experiments on my behalf: They were no less eager than I to discover the true nature of these seemingly important factors in the human sex relation.

During the course of these experiments, it was ascertained that if the couple did not lie naked for half an hour or longer, in close physical contact, kissing and caressing, but, instead, started intercourse immediately, the strange radiation did not emanate from the body of the girl; nor did sparks fly between the two lovers when they stood near each other afterwards, even though the sex union lasted less than the twenty-seven minutes which we had come to think of as necessary to eliminate these phenomena.

Further, the lovers found that every intercourse lasting less than twenty-seven minutes induced an urgent desire, in both, for a repetition of the sex act. But, if this desire was fulfilled by another too-brief act, both became nervous and irritated, and sometimes they suffered physical ailments afterwards, (headache, heart-palpitation, asthma, etc.) This seemed to show that the tension in the sex organs was reduced, but not the tension of the entire body.

Intercourse for periods of less than twenty-seven minutes increased the distance at which the sparks would jump to more than one inch, indicating that the tension in their bodies became stronger with each intercourse of brief duration.

On the other hand, intercourse lasting half an hour or more was followed by entire relaxation from nervous tension; and the desire to repeat the sex act did not renew itself for five or six days, sometimes not for a week; yet the couple's feeling of love toward each other increased and they were extremely happy.

Their feelings of relaxation and happiness set in, even after a short intercourse, if the husband did not withdraw his penis from the vagina after his ejaculation but, instead, remained

there for half an hour, even in an unerected state, giving his full and undisturbed attention to the contact.

They found that a sex union of half an hour's duration induced deep satisfaction in both for five days; one lasting an hour satisfied them for one week; an intercourse lasting two hours brought contentment for two weeks. This same lasting relaxation was also produced by prolonged bodily contact, without sex relation.

One day previous to the onset of the girl's menstruation the sparks, induced by the circumstances described above, became stronger and were released at a distance greater than an inch.

I was reasonably certain that this whole series of experiments, if true, represented an unusual case, and that the findings were applicable to this couple only, or to other couples only under special circumstances. I took into account the fact that the humid air, the thick Persian carpets on the floor and the passionate love of these young people for each other offered exceptionally favorable conditions for the occurrence of the phenomena observed.

But, in later years, the reports of Dr. A. B. were corroborated by reports of similar experiences by other couples.

Many of my scientific friends urged me not to publish my experiences before they had been tested and proved scientifically: otherwise, they warned me I would arouse great opposition.

As I have already stated, I followed their advice for more than thirty years, since, if someone else had told me about such occurrences, I could not have helped either doubting his sincerity or believing him the victim of some mistake or hallucination. Even though I knew my experiences to be true and not the result of any mistakes or hallucinations, I realized that it would be advisable to keep silent about such incredible events, inasmuch as my experiments were of such a delicate and private nature that it was not possible to demonstrate them.

I recalled the fate of Marco Polo who died under a cloud of

contempt. Men of his time thought him a fake; nobody believed in the existence of the China he had seen and described.

But now, at seventy years of age, anxiety over such skepticism no longer troubles me. I am firmly convinced that, however justified it may seem today, it will disappear, post mortem, when my findings are verified.

  • 1. See page 110, No. 1.
  • 2. See page 110, No.2.