Chapter 5: The Six Rules of Sex Intercourse - Part 2

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The conclusion the author drew after the experiments of the Arabian couple received corroboration, though it cannot be called proof, from a second source, the author's observation of certain sex practices of native tribes.

The South Sea Islanders rub their infants with their hands for hours to keep them pacified. Most of the mothers carry their babies on their naked backs while they work and the babies are happy and relaxed. What makes them happy? Is it not probable that it has something to do with the bodily con tact and the relaxing equilibration it provides for the infant's tension? Every mother knows that a crying baby can be appeased by laying it on her breast, even without giving it milk.

As already stated, children who have been bottle-fed as infants, who have not been accustomed, as babies, to lie beside their mothers or to spend hours in their parents' bed, and have had little human skin contact, suffer, as a rule, from handicaps in their later love life. As adults, girls with this back ground are more reserved and less prepared for the happiness of sex life; their husbands have difficulty awakening the bio electricity from their cells. The Melanesian woman who caresses her child's body for hours, and breathes on it fondly, seems to have an instinctive knowledge of how best to protect the child from such damage to his natural powers. Havelock Ellis was the first to observe, without attempting to explain

it, that infant mortality is thirty per cent higher among children who are not petted and caressed. If we assume hyper tension in the cells due to their becoming overcharged with electricity, is it not understandable? This would account for the desire of children to get into bed with their parents.

Very instructive is the sex life of young girls among some South Sea Islanders, especially where western influences have not disturbed their native customs.

At the time of puberty a girl leaves her home for another hut, where she sleeps with four boys of her choice, six months with each boy. After these two trial years she marries the boy who has given her the greatest relaxation. These marriages are happy and last a lifetime without infidelity.

Their methods of love-making are also instructive. They usually have intercourse not oftener than every five days. On other nights they sleep together, body to body, an art in itself, without contact between the sex organs.

Preparation for sex union takes at least half an hour. They caress, embrace, kiss and bite each other, until both are electrified. But never does a man touch the clitoris of his mate. (A matured woman should have entirely given up the sensations of the clitoris, which are characteristic of a child. After puberty these sensations are normally concentrated in the vagina.) When the sex act begins they lie united and motionless for at least half an hour, sometimes longer, before they start any movements. After the climax, they continue to lie together for a long time. This means that they enjoy the blessings of a successful sex union, with the electrical streams, so skillfully awakened in their two bodies, equalized.

The natives of the Trobriand Islands, in British New Guinea, ridicule the sex life of civilized people, caricaturing, before mixed audiences, the sketchy, limp and clumsy technique of western lovers. The audiences are amused by this burlesque of a lower state of erotic culture; but they believe

that the actors exaggerate because, in their experience, no couple could enjoy a sex act so lacking in preparation and so hurried in consummation. The explanation they offer is this:
"After one hour the souls of the ancestors awaken and bless our union." This means that, for these Island lovers, the long duration of the sex act is obligatory, a duty to their ancestors. Too brief a sex union would torture them with feelings of guilt and remorse.

Something else we might learn from the natives of these Islands is the position of the partners in the sexual union. Their first rule is complete bodily relaxation and freedom from pressure or strain. For that reason the man does not lie over his mate; to do so would imprison her, deprive her of the power of movement. During a prolonged sex act this would become unbearable while, if the man were to try to ease his weight by lifting himself up a little, his muscles would not be entirely relaxed, and his electrical streams would flow partly to his arms and legs, instead of concentrating in his sex organs. A further objection to the man's lying on the top of the woman is that, in this position, he is likely to touch the clitoris, which should be avoided. The most relaxing position will be described later.

Sometimes they lie with their heads at opposite ends of the sleeping mat, the two open pairs of legs fitted together like two pincers, in such a way that the sex organs come into the closest possible contact without penetration of the vagina. In this position they sleep together at times when no sex inter~ course is intended.

As a rule, on days of intercourse, all forms of love-making such as kissing, embracing, rubbing and biting are not only permitted, they are considered an essential part, a proper preparation, for the sex act or, in our language, for awakening the electricity of the cells. But when full sex union is reached no more tender caresses are allowed. All the attention, all the

electric streams, have to flow, fully and undisturbed, to the sex organs. On all the other nights, without sex union, they lie close together, naked body to naked body, and find them selves deeply relaxed in the morning. On such nights they do not caress or kiss each other, as that is the prelude to sexual intercourse, which would inevitably follow such stimulation.

The rules these islanders obey have much to recommend them. They are trained from childhood to cultivate the art most necessary to human happiness, the art of love; but this, like any other art, cannot be learned in a day.

In matters connected with love and sex, these islanders are aware of the reasons for their customs. They know why it is that the longer an infant is nourished at the breast the better he will be able to kiss his mate when grown. "If you want to be a master, you must exercise your skill young," they say. "Therefore the lips should learn to feel in babyhood." Like wise, as we already know, the more sensitive and attractive the baby will be to its future mate. "They have a better touch, they have a better exchange," they say. Exchange of what? Does this not indicate that these primitive people realize that the bodily cells should be exercised until they easily give out their radiations, instead of being blocked off by too strict an up bringing?

These people teach their children at the "first puberty" (about four years of age) to be aware of sensation in the sex organs in order that, later on, they may be good lovers. Parents do not interfere with their children's sex affairs so long as they do not violate their taboos. The result is that no one is ashamed to show affection, and sex manifestations are never ridiculed; on the contrary, they are held sacred. To be indifferent to sex is considered a form of vice.

What are the consequences of these attitudes and practices so opposite to those with which we are familiar? In spite of the practical sex education these children receive, they are inno

cent children, happy and relaxed. Marriages are harmonious, divorces unknown and neuroses do not exist.


A third valuable source of new understanding of our sex life is the special method of sex union known as Karezza.

Karezza is practiced by a group of men with exceptional powers of self-control. It is a form of prolonged, normal sexual intercourse which yields satisfactions of a very high order.

The Karezza method, as used by the American Indians, was reported a hundred years ago by John Noyes of the Oneida Community and later, by Alice Stockham. Karezza dwindled in America where it once had a considerable following; but it has spread widely in India, I am told, and is well known in Egypt.

The word Karezza means Renunciation. It renounces one thing, and one thing only, in sexual union: ejaculation for the man. Otherwise physical union is complete, prolonged and motionless and, in half an hour, a sort of superlative delight sets in. It is nature rewarding one a thousandfold for supreme self-control.

It lasts as long as contact is maintained. For hours. Then the two partners fall asleep, in a refreshing, dreamless sleep. And the next day both are in a state of wonderful happiness and relaxation. They are more deeply in love with each other than ever before.

The time when the sensation of delight sets in should be noted: after about half an hour of sex union, approximately the duration of intercourse of the Arabian couple, which caused the phenomena of the electrical sparks between their two bodies to disappear. This indicates, according to our theory, that the bio-electricity discharged from the cells of two

bodies during the prolonged love-making and stored up in the skin, has flowed to their sex organs where the two kinds of bio-electricity, of different potentials, meet and neutralize each other. As they are neutralized the electrical tensions in the two bodies cease and full relaxation sets in.

After such complete relaxation it takes time to recharge the bodies. Therefore Karezza can only be practiced successfully once in one to three weeks.

It seems that Plato, 2400 years ago, had knowledge of some kind of sex relation other than intercourse with ejaculation and orgasm.
Let us cite a passage from the Platonic dialogue on the nature of love, The Symposium.

"It seems to me that mankind are by no means penetrated with a conception of the power of Love, or they would have built sumptuous temples and altars and have established magnificent rites in his honor; he deserves worship and homage more than all the other gods, and he has yet received none.

"For Love is, of all the gods, the most friendly to mortals; the physician of those wounds whose cure would be the greatest happiness which could be conferred upon the human race.

"Whenever, therefore, any such as I have described are impetuously struck ... with love and desire ... they are unwilling to be separated even for a moment. These are they who devote their whole lives to each other with a vain and inexpressible longing to obtain from each other something they do not know what; for it is not merely the sensual delight of their intercourse for the sake of which they dedicate themselves to each other with such serious affection; but the soul of each manifestly thirsts for, from the other, something which there are no words to describe." (My italics)

From this quotation it is clear that Plato knew very well that the love relationship comprises something besides the dis

charge, in orgasm, of the male semen and the glandular secretions of the female.

What is this "something besides?" Is it a so-called "spiritual love," as so many believe Platonic love to be, a mere friend ship? We do not think so. It is something else that, in all probability, Plato has experienced and been unable to explain.

Had the findings of modern science been available to this great thinker of antiquity, he would not, we feel sure, have had to seek a mythological explanation for the facts he is here considering. He would have found it in the discoveries of biology and in those laws of physics which govern electricity. He would have said that a person's happiness depends on coming in contact with an individual whose electrical radiations complement his own; that the tension of a negatively charged man can find its outlet only through contact with a positively charged woman - one to whose wave length his wave length is attuned. This hypothesis would, we believe, have been nearer the truth than the more anthropomorphic concept that he puts into the mouth of Aristophanes in his remarkable dialogue.

Yes, without doubt, Plato must have realized that, in the exchange of radiations between two lovers there lies a satisfaction more delightful and profound than in the sex act itself. Nevertheless Platonic love is not "Karezza."

The author is acquainted with other experiences on which he bases these assertions.

The measurable electricity in the human body reaches its greatest intensity in the genital organs. But that does not mean that the amount of electricity from innumerable small sources cannot exceed that from one single stream, however strong. From the experiences mentioned, the author believes that these innumerable small streams can flow directly to each other and achieve equalization by mere bodily contact, with

out sexual union. This exchange induces a sense of delight that endures for days rather than for two or three hours.