Chapter 5: The Six Rules of Sex Intercourse - Part 6

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The following examples will show the close relationship between an unsatisfactory sex life and both physical ailments and mental disturbances.

CASE I

On September 21st, 1939, at a neuro-psychiatric conference of the University of California in San Francisco, the seemingly in curable case of Mr. K. was presented. He was a man about thirty years old, suffering from stomach ulcers and high blood pressure, and so nervous that for two years he had been unable to work or sleep; he was incapable of any kind of concentration such as that required to read, write or listen to music. All treatment had proved useless. He had to be kept constantly under narcotics. After he had attempted to commit suicide, his case was brought before the conference for a group decision. At the author's request this man was put under his care.

Mr. K., questioned about his sex life, believed that he had a normal relationship with his wife. That was not so. For years he had committed three mistakes in the technique of sex intercourse; he either used rubber condoms or practiced coitus interruptus and

his intercourse lasted only a few minutes. What was the consequence? The body currents, released by the sex act, could not be neutralized by those of his wife; they were blocked, and the streams flowed back into the different parts of the body. If he had digestive disturbances, the streams flowed to the stomach and bowels, and the patient concentrated his full attention on these organs. over exciting their cells and increasing the tension there to such a degree that these organs became really sick; ulcers developed. Sometimes the streams localized in the heart and he had heart attacks; or in the head, and he suffered from terrific headaches. Restless, disturbed and helpless, he grew constantly weaker.

According to our theory, the bio-electric currents, forced out from the bodily cells through frequent and wrongly conducted intercourse, remained imprisoned in the body and tensed it more and more. The therapy to be used was clear and simple: diminish the tension through "normal" intercourse. The author invited the man's wife to come to see him and explained to her how this could be accomplished. After that they practiced correct intercourse every five days, and by the second week the beneficial effect was evident. He became quiet and relaxed, his pains diminished, and after six weeks his troubles were gone. Very significant in his adjustment was an episode which occurred between November 1st and l0th of 1939. During this time he felt nervous and excitable again. After many inquiries, he admitted that his wife had quarreled with him, refused him intercourse and begun to menstruate, so that he had no sex life for ten days. The tension arose again in him on account of his unfulfilled sex wishes and began to be felt in the organs formerly affected. Immediately after he resumed normal sex life, the tension was released and the symptoms disappeared.

When the author presented Mr. K. at the neuro-psychiatric conference, eight weeks later, he was free from pain, capable of concentrating, able to work and had gained twenty pounds. He was cured of his neurasthenia and remained cured up to the time when I last saw him, five years later, in January 1944.

When, by invitation, the author reviewed this case before a meeting of the neuro-psychiatric group of Leland Stanford Uni

versity, in December 1939, a well known expert doubted that a regulated sex life alone can return high blood pressure to normal.

CASE II

On the author's request that he be allowed to try out his theory on a seemingly hopeless case, the expert sent him an industrialist, Mr. P., with whom every method for reducing his high blood pressure had failed over a period of years. When this gentleman was told that his troubles arose mainly from mistakes in his sex life, he became furious. He left with the remark: "Your method is too simple!" Nevertheless he tried some of the procedures advised; above all, he and his wife slept in one bed and their sex contact in an intercourse lasted more than half an hour. Ten days later he came back a changed man, happy, relaxed, working again at his business, and his high blood pressure down to nearly normal.

CASE III

Five years ago the twenty-five year old wife of a carpenter, Mrs. Helen P., became seemingly insane. She broke dishes, had crying spells and hallucinations and became so violent that her husband had her committed to an institution. There her case was diagnosed as schizophrenia. After insulin injections and electric shock therapy she calmed down and after a few weeks became entirely normal; she was released as cured.

One month later the same alarming symptoms appeared in full force again. She insisted she was sane and would not go back to the sanitarium; in the end the family doctor called me in on the case.

Helen's history showed no symptoms whatsoever of inherited mental disturbances. Both her parents were extremely well balanced and healthy. Helen, herself, had been a good student in

high school and had had three years of college; was very popular, outstanding in different sports and considered gay, calm and good. natured.

At the age of twenty-two she met her husband and fell passionately in love with him. Her parents considered him, in many respects, inferior, and vainly tried to persuade her to give him up. Helen became more and more irritable and unable to concentrate on her studies. In the end, two years later, the parents consented to the marriage. Nevertheless her nervousness increased, and ten months after her marriage she had to be put in an institution.

Such were the reports given by both her parents and husband.

My investigation confirmed my suspicions of the real reason for her illness. Our conversation was so significant and instructive that I believe it worth-while to repeat it literally:

DOCTOR: "Had you ever been in love before you met Bill?"
HELEN: "Never."
DOCTOR: "But at twenty-two you must have had some kind of sex desire?"
HELEN: "I did not even know what sex was until I met Bill."
DOCTOR: "Did your parents not tell you about sex?"
HELEN: "No."
DOCTOR: "But when you began to menstruate they must surely have explained this new function?"
HELEN: "Mother told me: 'That is normal,' and that was that. Even now I have no idea what it means."
DOCTOR: "Books or friends have never given you any knowledge?"
HELEN: "My friends did not speak about sex, they knew I was not interested .... I have never read any books pertaining to this matter."
DOCTOR: "Your husband then was your first teacher?"
HELEN: "Yes, but not with words."
DOCTOR: "I am sorry Helen, but I must speak with you about sex, much as you want to avoid it, for I am quite sure that your troubles started through wrong sex experience."
HELEN: "You are mistaken Doctor. It does not upset me to

speak about sex. You can ask whatever you wish to know."
DOCTOR: "Then Helen, tell me openly, did you have any sex relations with your husband during the two years before you married?"
HELEN: "Yes! Very soon after we fell in love with each other." DOCTOR: "At his home?"
HELEN: "Oh no! He lived with his parents."
DOCTOR: "Then where?"
HELEN: "He had a car, an old Ford. He called for me daily after five and drove me home over the mountain road, where there is little traffic."
DOCTOR: "And there you had sex relations?"
HELEN: "Yes! After we agreed to marry each other."
DOCTOR: "What would you call normal sex relations?"
HELEN: "What Bill taught me to do to him."
DOCTOR: "To do what?"

Helen described the fulfillment of his daily demands. It was impossible to believe that a grown woman of twenty-five could consider her one-sided sex relations with her husband as normal. Even after marriage he continued his peculiar sex practice and only occasionally, once everyone or two months, they would have an intercourse of a few minutes' duration.

That was her story. The whole case became clear:

Since Helen had met her lover, the constant irritation of her nervous system, through her one-sided sex play, increased the tension in her organism to such a degree that she was unable to control her actions.

Over-excitement in the sex glands increases the functions of the pituitary and thyroid glands, resulting in extreme psychic irritability. Hyperfunctioning of the thyroid even leads to visual or acoustic hallucinations. Hyperfunctioning of the pituitary gland stimulates an individual to great activity which sometimes leads to uncontrollable pugnacity.

Therefore Helen's reactions to her sex life could be regarded as a normal consequence of chemical poisoning. As an intoxicated

person, in his abnormal behavior, cannot be regarded as insane, insofar as his physical equilibrium is restored as soon as the influence of the alcohol ceases, so Helen cannot be regarded as a mental case. When the irritation of some of her hormonal glands is avoided she will become entirely normal again, without any electrical shock or insulin treatments.1

I taught the couple the six rules of sex intercourse. They followed my advice and a few weeks later Helen was once again the happy and healthy person she had been before she met her husband.

Five years have passed and she has remained completely normal. They now have three children and her marriage can be regarded as one of the few happy ones. But, without the regulation of their sex life, Helen would be now, without doubt, in an institution for good.

This case is presented, one out of many similar ones, for the consideration of all psychiatrists. I am quite sure that the example of Helen's case can save many persons from the disaster of being erroneously considered insane.

In addition it illustrates clearly the great influence that sex life can have on physical and mental disturbances.

In conclusion we would say: The six rules show the way to sex perfection. The more closely they are obeyed the more satisfaction and relaxation they will bring. But, I repeat, they are not easy to learn. They need a lot of self control. Not every person who starts to take piano lessons has perseverance and will become a great musician. Many people do not want to and will not change from an old, accustomed sex practice. Such persons can never reach the goal of perfection in sex life. "To attain a Master's Degree in the Art of Love is more difficult than to direct armies." (Ninon de Lenclos.)

But if a couple would follow even part, the most essential

part, of our requirements: (1) prolong sex contact (even after orgasm and ejaculation) for at least half an hour, with full concentration on the sex act, and (2) sleep in a double bed, in close bodily contact,2 both partners would not only enjoy their sex relations more, but their love for each other would, in all probability, increase, and all the nervousness and irritation, which ruined the harmony of their home, would give place to greater mutual consideration and to that most important factor in human happiness, peace of mind.

  • 1. No treatment of this kind could have cured Helen of her nervous disorders unless the source of her irritation had first been eliminated, namely the wrong sex practice with her husband.
  • 2. Dr. Kleitman of the University of Chicago believes, in opposition to the author and to many leading marriage counselors, that "you sleep better alone." He has arrived at this opinion by virtue of the fact that the experiments, on which he bases his statement, were made not on happily married couples but on thousands of University students who acted as his "sleeping guinea pigs".