SEX PERFECTION and MARITAL HAPPINESS
RUDOLF VON URBAN, M.D.
THE DIAL PRESS, INC.: NEW YORK
IN FEBRUARY, 1916, I was in Damascus, Syria, and had just finished lunch with some Turkish officers at the Hotel Victoria when I was informed that a young man wished to see me. On entering the lobby I recognized a former patient who, when he heard I was at the hotel, sought my advice regarding a series of seemingly incredible events.
A week before he had married a beautiful, young Arabian girl. They were both passionately in love. What had happened between them was so remarkable that he felt compelled to relate it to an expert. The story he told me may be found in Chapter V.
In the following two weeks, the newly married couple conducted, at my suggestion, a series of experiments with such astonishing results that they can be regarded as the basis of an entirely new conception of the mechanism of sexual intercourse.
At first I was convinced that this Arabian couple was an exceptional case, but later similar phenomena were reported to me by an Egyptian couple and again, in April, 1937, when I was in Peiping, by a Chinese couple. These experiences, together with my observations of certain interesting taboos ane sex practices of tribal peoples, convinced me that I had discovered the true nature of seemingly unknown, but extremely important, factors in human sex relations, factors essential to the happiness and duration of a marriage.
After further study and reflection I formulated a set of conclusions in my six rules for human sex relations which have been applied satisfactorily by scores of European and American couples.
Until now I have not disclosed my findings to anyone outside my practice, or to couples I dealt with in my court work, when attempting to effect reconciliation in divorce cases. My dilemma was this: it was obviously impossible for me to use the couples as objects of scientific demonstration; yet, without such demonstrations, science cannot accept new discoveries, however helpful and plausible they may be. Once, in May, 1933, during the course of a series of lectures on sexology at the University of Athens, in Greece, I touched on the subject of these new findings in human sex relationships, but my remarks were received skeptically.
Times have changed. On September 21, 1938, at a neuropsychiatric conference conducted by the University of California in San Francisco, I was able to prove that a seemingly incurable case, involving several grave ailments, could be cured by nothing other than an improvement in the patient's sex relations. By invitation, I later reviewed this case before a medical meeting at Leland Stanford University.
During the last nine years many discoveries have brought facts to light which support my experiences and provide them with scientific explanations. Therefore, I now feel that I have the right, even the duty, to publish my findings and so spread more widely the knowledge I have gained of ways and means to achieve health and happiness in human sex relations.
The information on anatomy, physiology, biology and sex psychology found in the vast accumulation of recent books on these subjects has proved inadequate from the practical point of view, inasmuch as it has failed to produce a satisfactory sex life for ordinary men and women. Were it otherwise, the divorce rate of our country would not have climbed to its present portentous height.
In addition, I hope to convince my readers that the sex impulse of children and adolescents needs correct guidance to help them avoid the dead ends of frivolity and neurosis. These
expressions of emotional immaturity in an adult are the archenemies of a cultivated sex life. To work toward a practical solution of this important problem, by indicating the progressive steps necessary to a sound sex education, and so to lift the sex problem from its present degraded state, is a further aim of this book.
DR. RUDOLF VON URBAN
Carmel, California. November 1948.
FOREWORD • vii
I INTRODUCTION • 15
II SEX DEVELOPMENT OF CHILDREN • 24
III TALKING TO CHILDREN ABOUT SEX • 47
IV THE PROBLEM OF MASTURBATION • 66
v THE SIX RULES OF SEX INTERCOURSE • 78
VI THE APPLICATION OF THE RULES (CASE HISTORIES) • 127
VII BIRTH CONTROL • 172
VIII IMPOTENCE AND FRIGIDITY • 184
IX LOVE CHOICE (ITS PRINCIPLES AND PITFALLS) • 199
X RESUME: ADVICE, QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS • 223
GLOSSARY OF TERMS • 234
INDEX • 242