Reuniting - August, 2007
Article by Marnia Robinson and Gary Wilson
The Great Stupa is an ancient Tibetan Buddhist legend. It teaches that the world's only hope for overcoming increasing chaos is to learn to tame the animal passions using the spiritual path of tantra, or “controlled indulgence.” (Making love without conventional climax.)
Certainly we know what excites our reward circuitry: high-calorie foods, sexual stimulation, trying something new, getting something for nothing, taking an impulsive risk, and so forth. This hidden programming leaves us pathetically vulnerable to the wiles of today's advertisers. “Want fries with that?” “Increase your sex appeal with X-Brand toothpaste” “FREE!” “Sign up now and save!”
Here are some reasons why porn can be a problem. They may help you figure out if you want it in your life.
Pornography is not reality
Suppose you're really hungry, but it's almost time to leave for your basketball game. What are you going to do? Answer: you're going to listen to either the old part of your brain or the new part. The old brain is saying, “You're hungry, go eat.” But the new brain is saying, “Sure you're hungry, but it would be smarter to eat after the game so you don't throw up.”
Reuniting - July, 2007
One of the goals of this website is to share wisdom from various traditions about the benefits of controlled intercourse. Because fertilization-driven sex is driven by the reward circuitry of the brain, it has the potential to become addictive.
First comes love, then comes marriage -- but these two things are no longer inextricably linked to nor necessarily followed by "the baby carriage."
A new poll by the Pew Research Center finds Americans are de-linking children as the sine qua non of successful marriages. In fact, they now tell pollsters they rate "having children" as the ninth most important out of 10 markers of successful marriages.
For an in-depth look at porn's effects on the brain, visit our sister-site Your Brain On Porn.
Although our website is devoted to the wisdom and neuroscience supporting sacred sex traditions, we sometimes have men join our forum who are sincerely, and sometimes desperately, seeking to stop using porn. We dedicate this article to them and their recovery.