Excerpts from Intimate Communion
by David Deida
For the Masculine, death and sex are inextricably interwoven; that is, good sex is mind-blowing, self-obliterating, so ecstatic and loving that no shred of self-containment remains intact. Instead, the boundaries of self are melted in the heat and light of desire expanded into love beyond limits. It is this ecstatic loss of self I am referring to when I say that sex involves the desire for death: the death of self into ecstasy and love. This form of whole-bodied self-yielding into the force of radiant love is far more blissful than the spasmodic release of physiological tension that an orgasm affords.